Archive for October, 2005

after all…

Thursday, October 13th, 2005

someone wrote sms for me: every hard part of our life just makes us better n stronger.*
when i read it, i thought it just an ordinary sentence to make me feel better.
i mean, i know that i will pass that hard situation, but that’s all.
i thought, it doesn’t mean i’m a better n stonger one after that.

but then.. i realize that it’s true!
after u pass the hardest part, step by step u can control yourself better…
then u will see the situation you had passed from better view so that u can analyze it better.
n d sweetest moment is when u can forgive people who had hurted you…

after all, i believe in destiny more n more!
i believe that GOD has beautiful plan for us!

nb. thanks for every you who have come in to my life, even just for a while!
*) thanks 4 mas Rudi

reminder for me n for all women in d world

Thursday, October 6th, 2005

This is what Oprah has to said about men:

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to
be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly
happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as

you deserve then heck no, you can’t "be friends".

A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. 
Don’t settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think "it will get better."

You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not
better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different
women.

He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,

why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behaviour. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…

even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into
a
quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.

If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two
Way
street.

You need time to heal between relationships…

there is nothing cute about baggage…
deal with your issues before
pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…

a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…
look for someone
complimentary…not supplementary.

Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes…
when a man always know where you are,
and
you’re always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. -
Isn’t this TRUE!!!!!

Never move into his mother’s house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you
need.
*

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

loncat-loncat

Monday, October 3rd, 2005

bentar lg mo puasa!!!
marhaban ya ramadhan!
critanya bnyk orang mo bikin pemutihan dosa sekaligus beli pahala yg gi di-sale
brarti skrg saatnya qta harus mulai siap2 kan…
mulai instropeksi diri, mulai berbenah lagi…
maafin c ya… kali2 c pny salah ma yg baca blog ini…
terutama kl sampeyan ngerasa c sakitin tp c-nya g ngerasa nyakitin…
(c gt lho… mana pernah niat nyakitin orang sih…?! halah! kluar lg narsisnya…)

hmm… bulan suci sebentar lagi…
hrsnya kan qta mulai blajar jd org yg lbh baik tuh…
tp koq brita yg bredar justru yg sedih2 ya… yg kesannya org tuh kejam, brutal, bengis…
apa emg g da hubungannya kali ya… (kenyataannya emg ga ada!)
mulai dr pbakaran rumah ibadah…
pengeboman di bali…
penjarahan di tebet (beritanya lom masuk TV lho…)
iih… koq kya bukan manusia aja siih…


moga2 sih yg ngelakuin itu bukan orang yg mengaku pemeluk islam yg taat…
sedih aja liat islam dipublikasikan, dimarketingkan, diiklankan, didakwahkan (g yakin jg sih apa kata yg terakhir tepat untuk kasus ini) dengan issue seperti ini…
pdhal yg c tau…
islam menginginkan menjadi rahmat untuk seluruh alam…
trus kenapa harus ada kekerasan yg tidak perlu atas nama jihad…
yg c tau juga…
islam bilang ga da paksaan dalam beragama
untukmu agamamu dan untukku agamaku
trus knp org lain beribadah, org yg ngaku islam malah sewot mpe mengganggu ibadah org sgl…
pdhal hadis aja ada yg crita kl dulu orang non muslim pernah dipersilakan b’ibadah di mesjid
dan sebaliknya pada suatu kesempatan sahabat pernah sholat di gereja…
yg c tau juga…
even dlm perang, wanita, anak2, rumah ibadah, dan fasilitas umum spt pasar n rs g boleh dirusak…
logikanya, apalagi di jaman damai spt ini…
yg c tau juga…
mencuri itu dosa!
trus masak iya menjarah ga dosa?!
apa yg c tau salah semua ya…?!


duh…
pdhal kan damai itu indah…
bayangkan aja…
kl gi di pantai…
liat ombak…
liat pasir…
liat langit..
liat cakrawala…
liat nyiur melambai…
liat ombak… (lagi)
liat matahari…
liat awan…
liat kerang…
trus dhuarrrr… tiba2 ada kerusuhan…
dimana indahnya?!!!!! hiks…
pdhal kan… mendingan qta maen bareng di pantai…
bikin istana pasir keq..
ngasi makan ikan keq… (emangnya kolam?!)


last but no least…
maaf kl tulisannya loncat-loncat n g nyambung…
sengaja dibuat spt itu spy sesuai dengan judulnya :p